What to do? How do I get my 3 y/o and my 9 y/o to stop fighting?? I try to keep them away from each other, but is that pratical? My 9 y/o is the middle child an struggles for attention. The 3 y/o is a girl and gets attention easily. I've asked them not to touch each other ever. That doesn't work. I ask them to get me if they have a disagreement. They don't. They can't even look at each other. I'm at a loss.